I was pondering the other day about all the types of people we meet during the week. I’ve noticed that there are a few that drag us right down and sabotage our success. These criminals hide amongst people like you and me who are seeking to be inspired and change the world.
These bloodsuckers of life want to do one thing and one thing only: take away your positivity and optimism for the vision you have for your life. They’re not there to build you up, they’re there to tear you down and make themselves feel better at the same time.
Selfish intentions can only hurt your chance of succeeding and rising to the top of society. It’s not about you; it’s about all the people you serve.
Make a stand! Eliminate these 7 types of people from your life:
1. The doomsdayers
These are the people who are predicting the next “Global Financial Crisis” and buying up big on Bitcoin. They’re the ones that won’t leave their money in the bank because they think the government will steal it from them.
The doomdayers live in fear of crisis. The tragic thing for them is that our world is constantly going to experience a crisis. We have up’s, and we have down’s. Life can’t exist without both, and we shouldn’t want it to. We need to hit rock bottom so that we can rise up again with a new perspective.
There is always a chance that the worst could happen and a nuclear war, natural disaster, or financial meltdown could stop us from living our dream. The chances are low, but it can happen.
That’s okay because we shouldn’t be focused on the worst case, we should be focused on giving as much as we can while we’re alive. None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow. Bin these doomsday fear mongers with next Friday’s rubbish collection.
2. The liars
Liars are what kill your network. They lie and cheat, which makes you an accessory to the crime if you allow them to stay in your life. Your net worth is determined by your network.
“You can’t grow a quality network of supportive troops to fight the front line battles with you if you allow liars to join the platoon”
Lying is a downward spiral. Liars lie because they have something they are trying to compensate for. They feel they aren’t enough and try and cheat the game of life by lying. There are no shortcuts when it comes to success. You can’t manufacture an attractive set of values that allows inspiring people to stand up and support you.
You’re going to need all the support you can get in life. Stopping yourself from lying is hard enough, let alone having liars spread their broken down ideas of the world.
3. The all talk no action type
Everyone talks a good game. We read inspiring blog posts on sites like Addicted2Success, we attend an event about becoming a better person, we talk about our next big business idea, etc. The problem with all of this dabbling is that it lacks action.
I am 100% sure you have people that hang around you right now who are all talk no action. They know what to do they just don’t do it. Part of it is laziness, but it’s mostly because they don’t listen. These non-doers think they have all the answers.
It’s not about having the answers, though. It’s about taking action, learning from the guaranteed failure, and then getting back on the horse again with an unwavering sense of optimism to start all over again.
Too many times we waste our energy on these non-doers. All they inspire us to do is talk and then talk some more. No amount of talking or planning will make you successful.
Exposing yourself to the hard yards and being prepared to sweat it out even when you are boiling your ass off is what it’s going to take. Don’t spend time with these non-doers. Delete them and welcome them back when they actually execute on something, even if they fail. Until then…delete.
4. The show offs
These are the guys and girls who have an unhealthy dose of their own ego. They think their shit doesn’t stink, but it does, just like yours and mine.
No one cares what car you drive, how much your outfit costs, what your annual salary was last year, or where you went to school. It’s all meaningless information. Every one of us cares about what you have to give.
There’s nothing worse than meeting someone who has an elevator pitch full of their achievements like it’s some gold medal that we’re all supposed to care about. You need to drop these show offs from your contact list because you’ll start to emulate their standards for life.
Show offs make you appear ugly even though I know you’re not deep down. These bizarre, self-obsessed creatures will learn the way of life that you have discovered. A way of life that is not focused on ourselves. They’ll join the Jedi force with you one day don’t worry.
5. The could have been’s
Even if everything went their way, the could have been’s are focused on the past. They’re focused on everything that can’t be changed and is set in stone. Hanging around these people will make you lose your sense of optimism. It’s unhealthy to look in the rear-view mirror of life too long.
These could have been’s are the one’s who have stories of bankruptcy, house foreclosures, medical challenges, and people who have passed away. These are the same events you and I face yet these people make the stories their permanent reality.
It’s like they believe that these horrible things don’t happen to all of us. Like they’re special, and we’re not. The events themselves are not bad, it’s the meaning that is derived from them that makes these tragic one’s not worth spending time with.
6. The always too busy
We’ve all seen those human beings that can’t stop looking at their phone. Even when they are talking with you, they’re looking at their phone. It’s the people that have calendars so full that the only time they have for a catch up is ten minutes at 7:30 pm on a Friday night.
When someone’s too busy, it means they either don’t have time for you because you’re not valuable, or their life is a disorganized chaos. On the first point, you can’t make everyone see your value so drop them and move on.
On the second point, it’s up to them to get their act together and say no once in a while. Say yes to things that may you say “Hell Yes.” Say no to everything else. This advice is not for you, by the way, it’s for you to give them. Scroll down your contact list, find their name, and press delete.
7. The low energy, junk food addicted slobs
You’ll find them saying yes to any food that is offered to them. Their waste lines bulge over their pants, and they consume sugar like it’s going to be outlawed in a few weeks. You might be in control of your health, but as in control as you are, temptation’s a b*tch.
Being around slobs will make you cheat your diet. Why does that matter? Because eating rubbish food will suck away your energy. You can’t be optimistic and positive if you are sluggish and tired. Attracting the right people to your life requires a certain energy.
Call it passion if you must. Passion is hard to show in all its glory when energy is lacking. Negativity feeds on junk food. When you’re tired, you get pissed off real quick.
So to lose the temptation, you’ve got to lose the slobs or help them get their diet back on track. Hanging around passionate, high-energy people is the fuel you need to crush your day.
What type of people do you need to eliminate from your life? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.